How we interpret our experiences is more about the state of our hearts

How we interpret our experiences is more about the state of our hearts

An excerpt from “Stop Waiting for Permission: Harness Your Gifts, Find Your Purpose, and Unleash Your Personal Genius.” The founder of Ford Motor Company, Henry Ford, is thought to have said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, […]

How to listen deeply and 3 ways to start

How to listen deeply and 3 ways to start

An excerpt from “The Connected Leader: 7 Strategies to Empower Your True Self and Inspire Others.” Let me start with a story about how not to listen. When our son Matthew was eight, I traveled to London on business, accompanied […]

Moving from ‘complaining victim’ to walking in freedom

Moving from ‘complaining victim’ to walking in freedom

An excerpt from “Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads.” Having lived in Southern California for over 35 years, I have grown accustomed to two types of weather: sunny and warm, and sunny and cold. We experience […]

Are social disconnection and our experience of God linked?

Are social disconnection and our experience of God linked?

Many of my early relational experiences left me feeling fundamentally defective in some sense. I wasn’t conscious of this feeling a lot of the time, but I developed a set of implicit beliefs about relationships and deep feelings about myself. […]

Understand your calling from God

What am I being called to say and do?

An excerpt from “Your Calling Here and Now” Vocation is always particular; this person, at this time, and in this place. Vocation is never discerned in a historical vacuum; it is always in the specifics of the world in which […]

How we can look to the Bible to discover our gifts and grow in faith

Everyone can grow

The universally popular appeal of the concept of mentoring is a sign that there’s something about pursuing growth and development that is wired into us as humans. The Bible points to the fact that God expects every human to grow, […]

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The single best way to start practicing self-compassion

My husband, Aaron, and I and our boys, Henry and Mac, are lifelong Midwesterners, but three years ago we moved to Manhattan. We made the move from a house in the suburbs of Chicago to an 825-square-foot apartment on the […]

An invitation to an examined life

Do you have a mind that is always seeking to make sense of things? Does your heart have a deep longing for a sense of order and belonging? Have you ever experienced a sense of wonder that thrills to the […]

5 mental health lessons in Disney’s ‘Encanto’

Have you seen Disney’s “Encanto”? The movie caught the attention of people of all ages and backgrounds over the past few months with its catchy songs and relatable messages. As a Colombian-American mental health therapist, I found the movie’s many […]

Exposing myths about what cures excess busyness—and discovering what really works

Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom. —Søren Kierkegaard If you listen to much of the advice dispensed by friends, advisers and online gurus for people who are overwhelmed and stressed out, the standard tips for beating your crazy busy life […]

4 tests to discern God’s voice

As a pastor, I’ve encountered so many stories about people who claim to have heard from God but who really haven’t—or who have misused their proclamation of it. Maybe Tom is sure he’s heard from God that he’s going to […]

How to find margin and allow for the better yes

Perhaps saying yes isn’t a struggle for you. In fact, you love to say yes. Maybe you’ve said yes so often that now you feel as if you are in the circus. Remember the clown at the circus that juggled […]